How to Establish Self-Confidence || KinanTech

We are all trying to find a place for ourselves in this world.For this, especially in modern times.When there are so many external stimuli, individuals must first cooperate with themselves.Our self-confidence is an important driving force in our lives.People with high self-confidence can determine the course of their lives.

The concept that needs to be emphasized when talking about self-confidence is 'self-esteem' and this expresses the value judgments of the person towards himself.People with high self-esteem are more assertive and assertive.They can easily communicate with those around them.They do not act according to the advice of those around them.They apply their own preferences.

Individuals with low self-esteem do not have self-confidence, do not care about their abilities, often deny their success, fall into despair easily and do not respect themselves.Low or high self-esteem is related to how active we can be in life.

Is it enough just to have self-confidence?

Each of us comes into the world with certain characteristics; These traits affect our emotions and behaviors.This concept, which we call temperament, manifests itself in the early stages of life, is an innate individual difference and enables us to behave relatively consistently in different environments throughout life.

There is also the environment in which we were born and raised.Individuals lay the foundation of their interpersonal interactions in their root families.

For example, we can learn directly from our root family the method of coping with the problem, or our solution path may be influenced by patterns from our root family without us realizing it.

Although everything we bring from birth and take from the environment shapes us relatively, at some points, the ropes are in our hands.By noticing the internal resources they have, people can examine their strengths and weaknesses.

Therefore, situations that may cause psychological discomfort can be prevented.

So what are these situations?

1. Burnout

In the struggle and hustle and bustle of life, sometimes we look good from the outside, but things may not go well inside.People around people who suddenly have psychological problems will often say to them, “He had nothing, he looked very good.” it is heard.Well, with what clues can we understand whether you have burnout.Which can cause many psychological disorders:When you wake up in the morning, the work you will do that day does not excite you. It's like running out of fuel to keep your body moving. The person experiencing burnout may have decreased motivation to start the day.

• A decrease in the feeling of rest despite the same sleep time may be an indication that things are not going well during sleep and that our mind is trying to cope with the problems that are ignored during the day.
• As burnout increases, problem-solving skills decrease and as problem-solving skills decrease, problems begin to be ignored.Crying spells that come out of nowhere, feelings of unhappiness that you can't understand can often be caused by these ignored problems.
• Goals and goals become meaningless: If you ask yourself what is my expectation from life and no answer comes to your mind, there may be a doubt about burnout.
• Not being able to say no: There is a lot of demand from our environment throughout the day.If we say okay to what we don't want to do in order not to offend people or create a negative atmosphere, this will lead us to exhaustion over time.
• Hopelessness: Hope is the belief that life events will be positive things. Decreased hope can lead to psychological problems due to reluctance, burnout, and withdrawal from life.
• Long-term stress: Today, the long-term stress factor created by the work or social environment negatively affects physical health and paves the way for inadequacy in coping mechanisms.

The most common form of burnout is workplace (professional life) burnout.This type of burnout can be caused by the following factors:

• High expectations of the employer
• Colleagues who practice mobbing
• Company understanding that is not in line with your values
• excessive workload
• Unfair low reward system
• Doing a difficult job with insufficient knowledge and skill.

2. Being sensitive and touchy

Sensitivity can unfortunately be a psychopathology facilitator.There are two main reasons for this.The first is those who are overly affected by the bad news in the media and are unhappy all day long.The second is those who neglect themselves because they are too giving to other people.These people usually accumulate and explode in an instant.

Frequently used sentences by those who have sensitivity and irritability problems:

• When I experience negative events, the effect is more on me than other people.
• I am fascinated by violent and emotional scenes in movies.
• I cry often.
• I throw in what I want to say just so that the people around me don't get upset.
• If I had the opportunity, I would spend all my money on people in need.
• My empathy skills are very high.

3. Problem Solving Skill

In studies on resilience, it has been revealed that as people's resilience level increases, they cope more successfully with stressful life events.Problem solving skills are the strategies, ideas, experiences and solution behaviors that a person uses to overcome an obstacle when he encounters an obstacle.Continuing one's life with peace and well-being depends on the ability to solve problems rather than encountering few problems.

4. You can Accept Yourself

Just as no one is perfect, everyone has negative aspects and features that they are not satisfied with.Being healthy is being able to recognize and accept the negative side.Being at peace with the part of you that needs to be changed and developed opens the door to a peaceful life.

• Increasing your self-esteem through this process of self-acceptance will make you more assertive.
• Being aware of the positive and negative in me will help you know your limits and direct your creativity in the right way.
• At the point where you accept yourself, you can evaluate others without prejudice and criticism, perhaps more flexibly.

5. Excuse me

Situations such as being offended, upset, offended, and angry are as much in life as positive emotions.It may be healthier for us to learn to forgive these emotional burdens and move on:

• Choosing the path of forgiveness can sometimes provide greater relief, rather than being offended and upset or trying to get angry and take revenge.
• The idea of ​​forgiveness leads to empathy.This makes relationships last longer.
• You do not have to bring the person you forgive back into your life The main purpose here is to get rid of the negative feelings caused by hostility.
• Forgiving ourselves can be the best solution when we feel angry and regretful at ourselves.

Sources:https://dergipark.org.tr/en/pub/kusbd/issue/56190/728746